Recently I've noticed a lot going on with online bullying, and I've even experienced some myself which was a little bit of a shock. I couldn't really believe people could act like that, but it was handy to remind myself that not everyone acts the same way and not to take it personally.
So where does this bullying energy come from?
I could tell the people who 'trolled' me were thoroughly enjoying what they were doing, they were working in a team together and it looked like they were 'feasting' on the energy of what they were up to.
A polished act!
I had some inside info about one of them (small town), this person was horribly bullied at school and was an 'outsider' so it seemed like they were perpetuating the pattern of bullying abuse.
The Bullied become the Bullies.
At the heart of it the Bullying pattern shows up as weaknesses in certain areas of the energy system, with a need to gain energy off others. The ones being bullied (myself in this case) also have a weakness in the energy system which creates an energetic 'in' for the bullies.
As soon as this began, I realised my own responsibility for my energetic health, to do some self care to make myself more balanced and give 'less of a in'. I had been feeling weak in a certain area, and the 'bullies' went straight there. So there was a big lesson and learning in it for me personally, they showed me where the next lot of work was needed.
Instead of going on the attack, I just didnt 'feed the trolls'.
Don't Feed The Trolls!
This is a good first line for any bully energy. Just disengage and don't feed them. Initially I responded as if I was speaking to a rational person, but once I realised it was a game to these two ladies then I deleted my comment and thread. If there is nothing to play with then it is
I didnt need to win against them, I just needed to save my energy and focus it elsewhere.
I then offered them the H'oponopono prayer of forgiveness to disentangle myself from their energy.
Please forgive me
I love you
Offering them forgiveness allowed me to see a bigger picture and not take it personally. Their behaviour was more about them than me. I did get a little but upset over the whole thing, but my tears were also more about me and my relationship to myself than about them.
There is a lot that can be done with BodyTalk to help a person become less vulnerable to bullies, or less likely to bully. Ultimately the bully and the bullied both need balancing, it is an energy dynamic between them.
I know this is a very real thing that can ruin many teenagers lives, some people suicide because of bullying, and have very low self worth. These patterns can be changed though.
If you have a teen getting bullied, or is bullying, or are being bullied yourself, get in touch.
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